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My Story by Kari Wells

With April Ross on the Business of Living, Married to Medicine, & The Pink Monkey

My goal in speaking to women is to educate them in how to live within their means and get out of debt. I help them learn the Business of Living and with what works for their choices, for their life.

The Business of Living  strategy doesn’t mean depriving yourself of nice things. It means protecting your financial self first–by making smart financial choices on a daily basis.

My message: “When you are financially secure, you don’t have to compromise yourself, you are less vulnerable.”

June 7, 2013

Bullying: Face It

Married to Medicine  has wrapped up for the season. It has been a valuable experience in many ways. Although, one thing I learned about that I had not expected was cyber bullying.

Bullying is nothing new. It has been around ever since humans began to intimidate each other. It is a form of survival of the fittest that attempts to weaken another.

Bullies in the pre-virtual world were physical. They engaged in face-to-face sand-kicking, pushing, taunting tactics. The cyber world has extended their punch.  Without the need to abuse a victim in person, bullies are braver, meaner—it is easier to belittle the idea of someone without looking them in the eye. Children who are bullied in school can be devastated by rumors and lies spread through phones and computers.

Also, with social media, bullies are not isolated personas. They have networks.

Bully prevention researcher Dr. Dan Olweus believes: “[T]here  are seven different levels within the bullying ladder: the students who want to bully and initiate the action, their followers or henchmen, supporters or passive bullies, passive supporters or possible bullies, disengaged onlookers, possible defenders, and defenders who dislike the action of bullying and help those that are victim­ized (Olweus, 2001).

I believe that learning to stand up against bullies, to not be a victim, is part of The Business of Living. And while I know I am not an expert in cyber bullying prevention, I am sharing these links from experts for anyone who wants to stop the epidemic:

http://www.educationworld.com/a_issues/issues/issues103.shtml

http://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/prevention/index.html

http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-cyber-bullying

 

www.commonsensemedia.org also has a helpful video:

And here is a video for youth from NICK where peers talk to peers:

 

June 4, 2013

You Cannot Buy Happiness In A Fishbowl

Brew yourself a cup of tea or pour a glass of wine—I have got a lot to say today about Bravo TV’s Married to Medicine  and about what people are saying about me.

I say not one of us can live our life in a fishbowl and expect every side we show to be the magazine cover shot. I expected that much.

Illana Angel wrote in the Jewish Journal : “We have all done and said things that we wish we didn’t, the difference is that it is not caught on film”

I chose to be in the fishbowl and swim with the sharks to become a celebrity yes, but not simply for the sake of fame.  I agreed to put “my life before the cameras,” as Lori Acken from Zap2it says to bring awareness to Thriving Children  and Doctors Without Borders, the charities that are near and dear to me.

What I did not expect was the cattiness of cast members or the level of animosity from the fans—especially Quad’s  supporters who wrote vile comments on my Bravo blog , comparing me to “pure breed dogs” and other hateful things. What I have been experiencing is nothing short of cyberbullying.

I admit that I am no innocent. I have had my slips of the tongue that contributed to what the Hollywood Reporter   calls “negative behavior” in their review of the show. The issue I have is with people who are bitter and mean-spirited. I do not like it when people say unkind things about me, but I cannot stop them or change who they think I am.

Here is the reality whether you are on television or not: each of us wakes up in the morning hair smashed from the pillow, eyes puffy from sleep, and teeth in need of brushing. The reflection we see in the mirror is not always pretty, but the person looking back at you is inside and the real question is do you like who you see, not what you see.

No amount of money can change the person you are inside—money makes life better not you better.  At the end of the day, I know who I am and I like who I am.

I agree with Goldie Hawn, someone who has capitalized on her fame to further her philanthropy: “The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are.”

 

 

May 15, 2013

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