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On ‘Married To Medicine,” Paypal Not Mariah’s Friend

By Kari Wells

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I already wrote one blog about how Mariah is using money to manipulate on “Married To Medicine” on Bravo Sunday nights—and how women who want to control their financial destinies need to learn from her mistakes.

So I had to laugh when I read this on the Reality Tea blog:

Mariah informs Aydin that co-host Kari Wells sent her a PayPal invoice, requesting money for damages, and Aydin cannot believe what he’s hearing. A shocked Aydin asks ‘what damages’ and Mariah complains about how they paid for ‘the whole damn party”‘only to be kicked out.”

Mariah, of course, refused to pay a cent for the damn party—perhaps because she had forked over for a Hummer limo and a new car as a gift for her husband.

Money is not the root of all evil, but when you use money to manipulate people it surely is the root of unhappiness.

 

April 25, 2013

‘Married To Medicine,’ Mariah, And The Meaning Of Money On Bravo

By Kari Wells

@kariwells_

#married2med

When you’re watching one of your favorite Bravo shows, like “Married To Medicine” Sunday nights, it’s easy to think that you’re glimpsing a fantasy world where money is endless and never a problem.

Nothing could be further from the truth based on my experience in life—and as one of those women in Atlanta on “Married To Medicine.” (Please don’t confuse us with “The Housewives of Atlanta.”) The reason I signed up for the show is actually to help women master what I call “the business of living” by taking full control of their financial destiny.

kari wells standing elbowsI am the Chief Financial Officer of my husband Duncan’s orthopedic practice, and I was responsible for turning his financial life around personally and professionally. That’s why I grow so concerned with the role of money in women’s lives on the show.

Most of the focus on the Bravo show this week will be on the ugly fight at my house between Mariah and Toya—no surprise there, because it was ugly and awful. But I want to put this in the context of three financial decisions made by Mariah before and after the explosion:

  • When she finally showed up—two hours late—she came with a gigantic Hummer limousine.

 

  • She surprised her husband by buying him a brand-new car and wanted to present it in front of all of the guests.

 

  • She then cancelled all of her payment towards the party, as she did not think she should contribute.

I think there’s a clear pattern here: money used willy-nilly to manipulate, one of the biggest problem faced by women.

Mariah paid for the limousine (and arrived late) to make a big, showy entrance and to make sure she was the center of attention. She bought her husband a car that he probably didn’t need as a big, showy declaration of love and money. She decided not to pay the bill or any of the damages caused at the party as a way to show that she (not me) was calling the shots.  She lives completely beyond her means trying to keep up to a lifestyle that she cannot afford, by renting expensive cars and homes.

Can you imagine a more irresponsible use of money in a 24-hour span? I can’t. Mariah spent more money that most families live on in a year—and she did it in the blink of an eye—and then she didn’t fulfill a REAL financial obligation to me.  I guess money cannot buy class.

On my web site you will see how my experience, (and the accumulated wisdom of economists, psychologists and sociologists) reveals that money should not be used to manipulate people (even those closest to you), but ideally should be used only to  create comfort and security for your family.

Just as a small example, I believe in giving back. If we have  money that we don’t need for security and comfort, we would prefer to give it to a charity that’s  close to our hearts, like, for instance, “Thriving Children” or “Doctors Without Borders” Do I buy expensive cars?  Sure!  But I own them, I buy them cash without borrowing any money.  A car depreciates as soon as you drive it off of the lot.  It is not an investment.  I only buy expensive things after I’m satisfied that I have fulfilled my obligations to society.

To each their own. It does bring me back to the important things in life and women taking sensible control of their financial destiny is paramount.

 

 

April 22, 2013

Not Alone With Anorexia On Bravo’s ‘Married To Medicine’ by Kari Wells

By Kari Wells

I was so excited to get this response from Karenna on Facebook after the “Married To Medicine” segment on Bravo. It’s nice to know we’re not alone and that there are others out there who have gone through anorexia and eating disorders like I have. #married2med @kariwells_

 

Dear Kari,

I am writing you because I want you to know that someone is in your corner. I too am an anorexic survivor. It almost killed me. At the age of 17 I wound up with blood poisoning and I weighed 83 pounds & even at 5ft that’s not much. The lab tech told my mom my blood was like water there was nothing to it. My fever was over 104 they had to packed me on ice in an attempt to break the fever.

Well thank God here I am today, although I have it under control I still have anorexia with me I don’t think one ever really gets over it I just think one learns how to get control over it and I have learned to be more accepting of my body as well. I know it’s a more complex than that but I don’t have enough room to type it all LOL!

Well any way, I am so proud of you for how you handled yourself! You are a class act and a real lady! The rest should take lessons….\I felt sorry for you though because you were all alone & it seemed no one had your back! So I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I really admire you.

Hugs, Karenna

 

April 21, 2013

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